ABU Darda' ialah seorang sahabat yang akrab dengan Nabi Muhammad. Beliau bersikap rendah diri dan bertakwa kepada Allah. Beliau banyak mendapat hadis daripada Nabi Muhammad.
Antara hadis yang terkenal adalah mengenai manusia dianggap gagah apabila dapat menahan perasaan marah.
Hadis ini dilaporkan oleh Imam Tabrani dan Ibin Abid Dunya. Pada suatu hari, Abu Darda' bertanya kepada Nabi Muhammad: "Wahai nabi, tunjukkanlah kepada saya amalan yang dapat membawa saya ke syurga."
Kemudian Nabi Muhammad menjawab, "Janganlah kamu marah. Mereka yang dapat menahan perasaan marah adalah orang yang mengawal diri sendiri supaya patuh dan taat kepada Allah dan Nabi Muhammad".
Abu Darda' mendengar dengan teliti jawapan yang diberikan oleh Nabi Muhammad. Kemudian Abu Darda' mengangguk-anggukkan kepalanya dan berkata: "Tahulah saya sekarang, orang yang dapat menahan perasaan marah adalah orang yang mulia dan dapat masuk syurga."
Abu Darda' juga ahli fikah yang masyhur antara para sahabat Nabi Muhammad. Beliau digelar 'Hakimul ummah' iaitu orang yang pandai dan bijak dalam hal berkenaan agama Islam.
Pada suatu hari, Abu Darda' mendapat berita mengenai kebakaran yang berlaku di kawasan rumahnya. Pada masa itu, Abu Darda' berada di tempat kerjanya. Perjalanan dari rumah ke tempat kerjanya agak jauh.
Kemudian, datang seseorang memberitahunya. "Ada rumah terbakar! Ada rumah terbakar! Semua rumah di kawasan tempat tinggal di kampung sebelah sana semua sudah terbakar!"
Abu Darda' mahu mendapat kepastian mengenai berita kebakaran itu. Beliau menghampiri lelaki yang menyampaikan berita itu.
"Betulkah apa yang kamu cakap ini?" tanya Abu Darda' kepada orang itu.
"Ya. Saya baru sahaja datang dari kawasan rumah itu. Api semakin marak dan menjilat rumah-rumah yang berada di kawasan itu!" terang orang itu.
Tidak lama kemudian, orang itu perasan Abu Darda' adalah salah seorang penghuni di kawasan itu.
"Bukankah kamu tinggal di kawasan rumah itu? Mungkin rumah kamu juga turut terbakar. Segeralah pulang dan lihat keadaan rumah kamu itu. Mungkin ada apa-apa yang dapat diselamatkan," kata orang itu kepada Abu Darda'.
"Terima kasih kerana memberitahu saya mengenai berita kebakaran ini," kata Abu Darda'.
"Pergilah segera pulang ke rumah kamu. Selamatkan barang-barang kamu," ulang orang itu lagi.
"Saya tidak dapat pulang ke rumah sekarang. LAgi pula, sekarang saya bekerja. Kerja ini sudah diamanahkan kepada saya. Saya perlu menyelesaikan kerja ini terlebih dahulu," bisik Abu Darda' sendiri.
Abu Darda' langsung tidak terkejut dengan berita kebakaran itu. Malah, beliau tidak risau sekiranya rumah beliau sendiri yang terbakar. Lagi pula, rumah beliau berada jauh dari tempat beliau bekerja. Sebaliknya, Abu Darda' segera menyelesaikan tugasnya.
"Saya bertawakal kepada Allah atas apa yang berlaku," bisik Abu Darda' lagi.
Abu Darda' terus menyelesaikan pekerjaannya. Bagi Abu Darda', beliau hanya dapat bertawakal kepada Allah. Sekiranya rumahnya musnah dijilat api, itu adalah takdir yang ditetapkan oleh Allah. Beliau dapat menerima kenyataan itu dengan tenang.
"Alhamdulillah, kerja saya hari ini sudah selesai. Saya mahu pulang ke rumah segera," katanya sendiri.
Petang itu, selepas selesai bekerja, Abu Darda' pulang ke rumahnya seperti biasa. Perjalanan ke rumahnya agak jauh.
Sampai sahaja di kawasan tempat tinggalnya, beliau melihat rumah-rumah yang ada di sana habis musnah terbakar. Tidak ada satupun rumah yang berdiri teguh dan terselamat daripada kebakaran itu.
"Habis semua rumah di sini terbakar di jilat api," bisik Abu Darda' selepas melihat rumah-rumah yang hangus terbakar itu.
Abu Darda' meneruskan perjalanannya sehingga sampai ke rumahnya. Tiba-tiba, beliau melihat keadaan rumahnya masih elok.
"Subhanallah. Saya bersyukur kepada Allah. Rumah saya tidak terbakar," kata Abu Darda' gembira. Beliau terkejut dan gembira melihat rumahnya terselamat dan tidak terbakar sedikit pun.
Beginilah sifat orang yang sentiasa bertawakal kepada Allah atas setiap pekerjaan yang dilakukannya. Allah lebih mengetahui mengenai sesuatu perkara. Sekiranya Allah mahu sesuatu perkara itu berlaku, pasti ia berlaku dengan izin Allah juga.
lPetikan buku Sayap dari Syurga terbitan PTS Islamika Sdn. Bhd.
http://www.utusan.com.my/
Wednesday, October 27, 2010
Tuesday, October 26, 2010
Never listen with a predetermined notion
A teacher teaching Math's to seven-year-old Kazim asked him, "If I give you one apple and one apple and one apple, how many apples will you have?" Within a few seconds Kazim replied confidently, "Four!"
The dismayed teacher was expecting an effortless correct answer (three). She was disappointed. "Maybe the child did not listen properly," she thought.
She repeated, "Kazim, listen carefully. If I give you one apple and one apple and one apple, how many apples will you have?"
Kazim had seen the disappointment on his teacher's face. He calculated again on his fingers. But within him he was also searching for the answer that will make the teacher happy. His search for the answer was not for the correct one, but the one that will make his teacher happy. This time hesitatingly he replied, "Four..."
The disappointment stayed on the teacher's face. She remembered that Kazim liked strawberries. She thought maybe he doesn't like apples and that is making him loose focus. This time with an exaggerated excitement and twinkling in her eyes she asked, "If I give you one strawberry and one strawberry and one strawberry, then how many you will have?"
Seeing the teacher happy, young Kazim calculated on his fingers again. There was no pressure on him, but a little on the teacher. She wanted her new approach to succeed. With a hesitating smile young Kazim enquired, "Three?"
The teacher now had a victorious smile. Her approach had succeeded. She wanted to congratulate herself. But one last thing remained. Once again she asked him, "Now if I give you one apple and one apple and one more apple how many will you have?"
Promptly Kazim answered, "Four!"
The teacher was aghast. "How Kazim, how?" she demanded in a little stern and irritated voice.
In a voice that was low and hesitating young Kazim replied, "Because I already have one apple in my bag."
Moral of the Story: "When someone gives you an answer that is different from what you expect don't think they are wrong. There maybe an angle that you have not understood at all. You will have to listen and understand, but never listen with a predetermined notion."
- From Manners in Islam.
The dismayed teacher was expecting an effortless correct answer (three). She was disappointed. "Maybe the child did not listen properly," she thought.
She repeated, "Kazim, listen carefully. If I give you one apple and one apple and one apple, how many apples will you have?"
Kazim had seen the disappointment on his teacher's face. He calculated again on his fingers. But within him he was also searching for the answer that will make the teacher happy. His search for the answer was not for the correct one, but the one that will make his teacher happy. This time hesitatingly he replied, "Four..."
The disappointment stayed on the teacher's face. She remembered that Kazim liked strawberries. She thought maybe he doesn't like apples and that is making him loose focus. This time with an exaggerated excitement and twinkling in her eyes she asked, "If I give you one strawberry and one strawberry and one strawberry, then how many you will have?"
Seeing the teacher happy, young Kazim calculated on his fingers again. There was no pressure on him, but a little on the teacher. She wanted her new approach to succeed. With a hesitating smile young Kazim enquired, "Three?"
The teacher now had a victorious smile. Her approach had succeeded. She wanted to congratulate herself. But one last thing remained. Once again she asked him, "Now if I give you one apple and one apple and one more apple how many will you have?"
Promptly Kazim answered, "Four!"
The teacher was aghast. "How Kazim, how?" she demanded in a little stern and irritated voice.
In a voice that was low and hesitating young Kazim replied, "Because I already have one apple in my bag."
Moral of the Story: "When someone gives you an answer that is different from what you expect don't think they are wrong. There maybe an angle that you have not understood at all. You will have to listen and understand, but never listen with a predetermined notion."
- From Manners in Islam.
Friday, May 14, 2010
Reminder for MukaBuku..
7 Things to Stop Doing Now on Facebook
by Consumer Reports Magazine
Wednesday, May 12, 2010
Wednesday, May 12, 2010
provided by
Using a Weak Password
Avoid simple names or words you can find in a dictionary, even with numbers tacked on the end. Instead, mix upper- and lower-case letters, numbers, and symbols. A password should have at least eight characters. One good technique is to insert numbers or symbols in the middle of a word, such as this variant on the word "houses": hO27usEs!
Leaving Your Full Birth Date in Your Profile
This is an ideal target for identity thieves, who could use it to obtain more information about you and potentially gain access to your bank or credit card account. If you've already entered a birth date, go to your profile page and click on the Info tab, then on Edit Information. Under the Basic Information section, choose to show only the month and day or no birthday at all.
Overlooking Useful Privacy Controls
For almost everything in your Facebook profile, you can limit access to only your friends, friends of friends, or yourself. Restrict access to photos, birth date, religious views, and family information, among other things. You can give only certain people or groups access to items such as photos, or block particular people from seeing them. Consider leaving out contact info, such as phone number and address, since you probably don't want anyone to have access to that information anyway.
Posting Your Child's Name in a Caption
Don't use a child's name in photo tags or captions. If someone else does, delete it by clicking on Remove Tag. If your child isn't on Facebook and someone includes his or her name in a caption, ask that person to remove the name.
Mentioning That You'll Be Away From Home
That's like putting a "no one's home" sign on your door. Wait until you get home to tell everyone how awesome your vacation was and be vague about the date of any trip.
Letting Search Engines Find You
To help prevent strangers from accessing your page, go to the Search section of Facebook's privacy controls and select Only Friends for Facebook search results. Be sure the box for public search results isn't checked.
Permitting Youngsters to Use Facebook Unsupervised
Facebook limits its members to ages 13 and over, but children younger than that do use it. If you have a young child or teenager on Facebook, the best way to provide oversight is to become one of their online friends. Use your e-mail address as the contact for their account so that you receive their notifications and monitor their activities. "What they think is nothing can actually be pretty serious," says Charles Pavelites, a supervisory special agent at the Internet Crime Complaint Center. For example, a child who posts the comment "Mom will be home soon, I need to do the dishes" every day at the same time is revealing too much about the parents' regular comings and goings.
Consumer Reports has no relationship with any advertisers on Yahoo!
Copyrighted 2009, Consumers Union of U.S., Inc. All Rights Reserved.
Using a Weak Password
Avoid simple names or words you can find in a dictionary, even with numbers tacked on the end. Instead, mix upper- and lower-case letters, numbers, and symbols. A password should have at least eight characters. One good technique is to insert numbers or symbols in the middle of a word, such as this variant on the word "houses": hO27usEs!
Leaving Your Full Birth Date in Your Profile
Overlooking Useful Privacy Controls
For almost everything in your Facebook profile, you can limit access to only your friends, friends of friends, or yourself. Restrict access to photos, birth date, religious views, and family information, among other things. You can give only certain people or groups access to items such as photos, or block particular people from seeing them. Consider leaving out contact info, such as phone number and address, since you probably don't want anyone to have access to that information anyway.
Don't use a child's name in photo tags or captions. If someone else does, delete it by clicking on Remove Tag. If your child isn't on Facebook and someone includes his or her name in a caption, ask that person to remove the name.
Mentioning That You'll Be Away From Home
That's like putting a "no one's home" sign on your door. Wait until you get home to tell everyone how awesome your vacation was and be vague about the date of any trip.
Letting Search Engines Find You
To help prevent strangers from accessing your page, go to the Search section of Facebook's privacy controls and select Only Friends for Facebook search results. Be sure the box for public search results isn't checked.
Permitting Youngsters to Use Facebook Unsupervised
Facebook limits its members to ages 13 and over, but children younger than that do use it. If you have a young child or teenager on Facebook, the best way to provide oversight is to become one of their online friends. Use your e-mail address as the contact for their account so that you receive their notifications and monitor their activities. "What they think is nothing can actually be pretty serious," says Charles Pavelites, a supervisory special agent at the Internet Crime Complaint Center. For example, a child who posts the comment "Mom will be home soon, I need to do the dishes" every day at the same time is revealing too much about the parents' regular comings and goings.
Consumer Reports has no relationship with any advertisers on Yahoo!
Copyrighted 2009, Consumers Union of U.S., Inc. All Rights Reserved.
Wednesday, May 12, 2010
Entry Rindu Dendam
Lamanya tak berblog, rindu...
Alhamdulillah, life has been treating me and family well. A few hiccups on and off, tapi that's what's making life more interesting kan???
At the point of writing, my youngest and eldest girl tengah tidur. Amir's playing with his friends. He still has his friends coming over. Ada 6 orang tu, tengah main bola kat padang sekangkang kera. Berapa kali bola kena tingkap, nasib baik tak pecah. Except for the flouresant light yang dah tergantung je tu...
I'm still the 'Makcik Guard' kat sekolah agama the kids. I remember not being too keen about the idea of spending 3 hours every morning at the school. I used to think Papapia's idea was absurd. Tapi tak nak lah lawan cakap suami kan?? So, I reluctantly accepted the duty. Rupa-rupanya ada hikmah.. bersyukur with that opportunity.
Sekarang, I can join the kelas agama which is being held at the nearby surau, 2 days in a week. The timing is just nice. Memang dah lama nak attend these classes. Some of the books used are in Jawi. Kenalah polish my Jawi. Nak baca Jawi tu ok lagi, bila nak tulis tu, ada berkarat sikit...
Sementara menunggu the kids, I also make it a point to study the contents / translations of the Quran. No doubt I can do it at home. Tapi bila kat rumah tu, banyak sangat distractions nya... Alhamdulillah, I've made some progress. Found some inner peace.
Well, what can I say, my gratitude to Allah for all the blessings..
Alhamdulillah, life has been treating me and family well. A few hiccups on and off, tapi that's what's making life more interesting kan???
At the point of writing, my youngest and eldest girl tengah tidur. Amir's playing with his friends. He still has his friends coming over. Ada 6 orang tu, tengah main bola kat padang sekangkang kera. Berapa kali bola kena tingkap, nasib baik tak pecah. Except for the flouresant light yang dah tergantung je tu...
I'm still the 'Makcik Guard' kat sekolah agama the kids. I remember not being too keen about the idea of spending 3 hours every morning at the school. I used to think Papapia's idea was absurd. Tapi tak nak lah lawan cakap suami kan?? So, I reluctantly accepted the duty. Rupa-rupanya ada hikmah.. bersyukur with that opportunity.
Sekarang, I can join the kelas agama which is being held at the nearby surau, 2 days in a week. The timing is just nice. Memang dah lama nak attend these classes. Some of the books used are in Jawi. Kenalah polish my Jawi. Nak baca Jawi tu ok lagi, bila nak tulis tu, ada berkarat sikit...
Sementara menunggu the kids, I also make it a point to study the contents / translations of the Quran. No doubt I can do it at home. Tapi bila kat rumah tu, banyak sangat distractions nya... Alhamdulillah, I've made some progress. Found some inner peace.
Well, what can I say, my gratitude to Allah for all the blessings..
Tuesday, March 30, 2010
Sepurnama berlalu...
Dah lebih sebulan, since my last entry. Ni semua sebab baru berkenalan dengan Cik FB. Best jugak, dapat virtually meet old friends. Tapi dengan Cik FB tu tak boleh nak merapu panjang-panjang, ada limit lah pulak....
Nothing much has changed, life goes on as usual. With a few humps & bumps, on and off..
Alia, baru discovered the definition of the word 'later'. Sekarang, suruhlah dia buat apa pun, she will cheekily answered 'later, later...'
Bila dia suruh kita tolong dia, & Mamamia menyakat jawap 'later, later', tahu pulak dia nak marah...
Aimy, the third kid kena chicken pox this time around. Alhamdulillah, tak banyak scar. She is my most reliable helper. Sangat ringan tulang... She'll be the one who will check on the rabbits' food and water. Kalau kosong, dialah yang tolong isikan...
Lepas seminggu tak pergi sekolah due to her chicken pox, she's having some issues about going to sekolah agama. Dia takut kena marah, kalau tak tahu buat latihan, since she has missed quite a few lessons. Satu hal jugak, nak pujuk dia...
Amir, tahun ni tahun UPSR. Baru mula pergi kelas tuisyen Bahasa Melayu. Mata pelajaran lain, InsyaAllah Mamamia boleh tolong lah sikit sikit. For BM, I'd better leave it to the expert.
Ujian baru ni, dia dapat 'B' untuk Penulisan & Maths. Selalunya Maths dia tinggi, but this time it was totally careless mistakes on his part. He marked 8 answers wrongly on the objective answer sheet. Dalam kertas soalan dia jawap betul, tapi kertas jawapan dia tanda salah. I hope he has learned his lessons well.
As for BM, he really needs to 'sental' his vocabulary, kalau dapat dengan berus dawai!!
Dia ingat perkataan ' rempah ratus' tu, sama macam 'thousand islands'!!! Boleh???
Farah is adapting to life as a fourth former. Banyak homework & tak cukup masa. She's in science stream and at the same time taking Prinsip Akaun as extra subject.
Has some issues as any normal teenage girls would, especially when it comes to outings with friends. Kami memang ibubapa yang konservatif!! She just has to live with that.
Papapia, as always, very occupied with his work. Kalau balik awal tu, kira bonus lah... Not complaining though, for we can see that he still makes time for us. Bila anak-anak sakit, he still plays 'doctor', buying toys and gifts for them.
Tapi, bolehtak Papapia, next time bila beli mainan, janganlah beli yang ada tulis " Adult Assembly Required" on the box?. Macam yang kat bawah ni....
Ni boleh buat Mamamia marah......, sebab Mamamia yang kena jadi 'adult' tu....
Other than that, Mamamia masih bertugas sebagai Makcik Guard. Tapi sekarang dah naik sikit status... Ada students start calling me 'Cikgu' & 'Ustazah'....
Nothing much has changed, life goes on as usual. With a few humps & bumps, on and off..
Alia, baru discovered the definition of the word 'later'. Sekarang, suruhlah dia buat apa pun, she will cheekily answered 'later, later...'
Alia, pergi mandi...
Later, later....
Alia, jom naik tidur...Later, later...
Bila dia suruh kita tolong dia, & Mamamia menyakat jawap 'later, later', tahu pulak dia nak marah...
Aimy, the third kid kena chicken pox this time around. Alhamdulillah, tak banyak scar. She is my most reliable helper. Sangat ringan tulang... She'll be the one who will check on the rabbits' food and water. Kalau kosong, dialah yang tolong isikan...
Lepas seminggu tak pergi sekolah due to her chicken pox, she's having some issues about going to sekolah agama. Dia takut kena marah, kalau tak tahu buat latihan, since she has missed quite a few lessons. Satu hal jugak, nak pujuk dia...
Amir, tahun ni tahun UPSR. Baru mula pergi kelas tuisyen Bahasa Melayu. Mata pelajaran lain, InsyaAllah Mamamia boleh tolong lah sikit sikit. For BM, I'd better leave it to the expert.
Ujian baru ni, dia dapat 'B' untuk Penulisan & Maths. Selalunya Maths dia tinggi, but this time it was totally careless mistakes on his part. He marked 8 answers wrongly on the objective answer sheet. Dalam kertas soalan dia jawap betul, tapi kertas jawapan dia tanda salah. I hope he has learned his lessons well.
As for BM, he really needs to 'sental' his vocabulary, kalau dapat dengan berus dawai!!
Dia ingat perkataan ' rempah ratus' tu, sama macam 'thousand islands'!!! Boleh???
Farah is adapting to life as a fourth former. Banyak homework & tak cukup masa. She's in science stream and at the same time taking Prinsip Akaun as extra subject.
Has some issues as any normal teenage girls would, especially when it comes to outings with friends. Kami memang ibubapa yang konservatif!! She just has to live with that.
Papapia, as always, very occupied with his work. Kalau balik awal tu, kira bonus lah... Not complaining though, for we can see that he still makes time for us. Bila anak-anak sakit, he still plays 'doctor', buying toys and gifts for them.
Tapi, bolehtak Papapia, next time bila beli mainan, janganlah beli yang ada tulis " Adult Assembly Required" on the box?. Macam yang kat bawah ni....
Other than that, Mamamia masih bertugas sebagai Makcik Guard. Tapi sekarang dah naik sikit status... Ada students start calling me 'Cikgu' & 'Ustazah'....
Thursday, February 25, 2010
Holiday which ended with a BANG...
You know what we did last CNY break??? ( cerita lama...)
Selepas teruja dgn Mrs Hart's entry cerita pasal her stay at Legend WaterHome Pd, Mamamia telah berjaya memujuk Amir untuk merengek pada Papapia dia to take us to PD.
As usual booking & room reservation was left to the very last minute. Nasib baik ada lagi kosong.. We went on Sunday and came back Tuesday.
Alia was excited bila Mamamia beritahu yang tempat ni ada swimming pool.
"Tak da H1N1 lagi ke ???" she asked. Sebabnya eversince the H1N1 outbreak dah lama kami tak pergi tempat2 yg ada main2 air ni. Everytime she asked to take her to the club's swimming pool, we told her, tak boleh, ada H1N1. So, of courselah dia excited bila dengar nak pergi tempat ni.
Masa nak check in, the staff informed me that our room has been upgraded to Water Villa. Bilik atas air laut. Sorrylah nak accept that one, still phobia dengan Tsunami. Insisted to get the original room ie Garden Deluxe something, something...
The room was big. With 2 king size beds. Kalau lagi satu family pun boleh masuk, tapi kena bentang Totto sendirilah...
Budak-budak seronok sungguh, sebab tak payah nak jalan jauh nak main air. Mama Papa pun of course happy, we could just kept an eye on the kids without living the room. Since the pool is ours, & ours alone, we all had non stop fun. Sampai kecut2 & hitam
Since our room was the upstairs unit, the pool was outdoor ( not like the one Mrs Hart took). But still hidden fr public eyes...
Budak2 biasalah, kalau boleh tak nak balik. Told them, kalau nak datang lagi, kena work hard on their studies. As usual, they said they would. Samada buat ke tidak, tu bab lain...
Lepas check out, Farah wanted to go to the ladies. While she did her business inside, I sat on the the sofa outside. Lama jugak dia dalam tu... After nearly half an hour, my hp rang. It was Farah calling. Nak tahu kenapa???
Pintu toilet dia tak boleh bukak!!!. Mamamia pun masuklah.. Did my share of BANG! BANG! BANG! on the door, tak gerak jugak...
Nasib baiklah reception area dia dekat. Reported to a lady staff who later located the hotel's maintenance staff. Meanwhile, Papapia dah restless tunggu dalam kereta. Apa hal lah pulak kami lama sangat...
After a few more BANG! BANG! BANG! banging on the door by the maintenance staff, akhirnya pintu toilet dapat dibuka.... Farah was set free & we headed home with a promise to the kids that we might come back...
Sunday, February 21, 2010
Wishlist...
What I really want is this.
Imagine, the ample leisure time we will have to gather-gather, kalau you dapat belikan I yang ni. You will have my undivided attention, percayalah......
Subscribe to:
Posts (Atom)